Finding a love relationship, the right person to share your life with, can be a challenging endeavor. Many people will say: “There is someone for everyone” – this may or may not be true. If you are searching for “one” person who you want to share a meaningful love relationship with the rest of your life, it is important to understand that if you find them, you have a lot of work ahead of you. People consistently change throughout their lives. We all go through physical, intellectual, and emotional changes in life. If you share your life with another person, it is important to understand that you are prepared for the challenge. Here, I will provide some insight on how to find the right person to share your life with.
The first step to finding that special someone is to learn and understand that you do not need to be involved in a love relationship in order to feel fulfilled. If you feel that finding the “one” will make you happy, and fill voids in your life, you must take a step back and focus on finding yourself. I have seen so many people say “if I could just find someone, I would be happy”; “I will be complete when I am married”. The fact is, if you are feeling this way, you will not be happy with whoever it is that you find, because you are not happy with yourself. If you go into a relationship with this type of attitude, you will set the expectations so high in your partner that they will always fall short – no matter how hard they try. Make sure you are happy with yourself, and that you are not looking for “someone special” to make you happier about yourself
Another thing to consider when searching for that special someone is to determine the values and qualities that you find attractive in a person. Most individuals see someone attractive, and that is about as far as their judgment goes. Sure, that is how most relationships start, there is something physical that attracts you to the other person. The point here is to keep that in perspective. This hot, attractive, beautiful person will age, will change, and be totally different in five, ten or twenty years time. You need to make sure that what remains is work the work that having a lifetime relationship entails. We all change.
Many find that it is important to discover a partner who has similarities when it comes to hobbies, interests, and even professions. You need to know that this is not necessarily a recipe for success. People have different needs it is in the matching and meeting of these needs that long term relationships are born. The long term success of the relationship is to a great extent dependent on how skilled we become in understanding and fulfilling the needs of our partner or partner to be.
Finding the right person to share your life with can be really challenging, but you will discover, as you think about this more and more that finding the “right” person is just as much about knowing the other individual than about knowing yourself.
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