2010 June |

Sunday, June 27th, 2010

My grandmother once told me, “Carlos, make sure you marry for money…because you’re gonna get divorced, and it’s better to be left crying in a Mercedes, then to be left crying in a Volkswagen…either way, they’re gonna leave you…Now go refresh Grandma’s drink.”

Wow, that old drunk always gave horrible advice…

What about you? From my stepmother. You marry him and it won’t last. You’ll never have anything. And several more things I won’t repeat. I’m still married to him. We have a home. We have furniture. We have enough to eat. We have laughter. What more could I ask for?

She was wrong!

Wednesday, June 23rd, 2010

Always be honest with each other and accept each other for the way you are….

Sunday, June 20th, 2010

This kid just sold his dating advice book to a movie studio. obviously he is full of good information.

I wonder how he would handle all the “My Wife/Husband won’t have sex with me” questions.

Maybe we could learn something about marriage from a kid who hasn’t reached puberty yet………………..

a lot of people in here could learn a lot from a child…. cause a lot of people in here…. act like babies.

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

i love giving relationship advice. i think im really good at it. people seem to think the same too. i help them out when theyre depressed from a breakup or are in trouble with their relationship. it usually goes well. for some reason it doesnt work out for me. my relationship crashes and burns and i fall into a depression/rage. its pretty sad that i cant help myself isnt it??? not all relationships are ment to be forever but still. what do you think of me and my situation?

Relationships aren’t as easy as putting advice to a problem. This being because most advice is book advice…it’s for the ideal relationship. But the fact is, every single person and every single relationship on earth is different and not all advice can match up 100% with the problem a couple is having.

For instance: In general we say, if you’re feeling uncomfortable with your significant other’s temper problem, talk to them about your concerns and try to make them understand where you’re coming from. This is text book advice. Ideally…this would work for everyone. First couple: The man easily raises his voice, slams doors, hits the walls…scares the woman senseless. So one day, she sits him down and confronts him without being offensive, just as the advice tells her to do. But he’s in denial and gets defensive and says she doesn’t know what she’s talking about and starts saying that there just something wrong with her that she’s trying to cover up. Second couple: The man is the same way. The woman, again, sits him down and confronts him…tells him how he scares her when he gets angry and tells him of all the stuff he does. Realization hits him and he apologizes and from then on, makes an effort to get better.

All advice has to be tweaked here and there to meet the needs of the specific couple and individual. Even here, we give advice…but i by no means think our advice is followed to the letter. The asker tweaks it where it needs to be tweaked to fit his/her needs with his/her relationship and significant other.

Monday, June 14th, 2010

What’s an example of some bad relationship advice you frequently hear?

Mine: Only assholes get women. Be a jerk!

I’m a woman. I would never date a guy who wasn’t sweet or nice. My fiance didn’t attract me by acting like a douche.

Use pick-up lines

Sunday, June 6th, 2010

OOOOOH YEEEEAH! A frumpilicious broad like myself or a hot broad only been married less than 1 year?

You and all my contacts.

Thursday, June 3rd, 2010

I have been reading through several of the marriage questions and there are lots of comments about swinging and sugggesting it. Do couples really swing? And doesn’t it hurt your marriage? I think it sounds great as a fantasy, and my wife and I have been married 10 years, but I don’t know if we could ever go through with it. Is it really benefical for those couples who agree to do it?

I tried it with my ex husband and it was the dumbest thing we did, it helped end our marriage. Course he is an extremely jealous person and it was stupidity on my part to agree to do it, but I wanted to please him (and I was a bit curious) we agreed to only the women having sex together and not swapping men, however he couldn’t handle another man seeing me in my birthday suit and commenting on my body! Just be careful!

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

I haven’t been in a serious relationship…. Ever. All of a sudden, I get five+ different close friends asking me relationship advice. I try helping as much as possible, and they seem very grateful for it. But when I ask for relationship advice, they say they can’t help. I just feel like I scratch their back, they leave without returning the favor. What can I do?

Get better friends.